Having a partner that cares can truly change the success of a relationship. How can you be with someone that doesn’t care, right? Umm hello, of course I have a partner that cares about me! Well, yes, but how does your partner care? I believe that there are two types of care: the selfish conditional care, and the selfless unconditional care.
The selfish, conditional care will leave you with a partner who only wants to do the best for you when it’s also the best for him. This means a lack in sacrifice, compromise, and care unless your partner will also benefit. Whereas, the selfless, unconditional care provides a very different picture.
Relationships are a partnership, and sometimes sacrifices and compromises need to be made in order to help the other person reach their goals or manage obligations. When you have a partner that cares and is sometimes willing to place your needs before her own, and vice versa, you will notice a shift in how the relationship functions. Caring for one another, selflessly, allows for an openness and kindness that will lead to fulfillment.
To truly care for another person and receive that type of care softens the soul. Being with a partner that is selfish overall, but especially in the way that he cares for you, can be destructive. I’ve been there, and I’ve walked away from that. It’s awful knowing that your partner is doing things out of obligation, or because there is something he can gain.
Being with someone who genuinely wants you to succeed and be the best version of yourself, and supports those efforts, even if it requires her to compromise, is what real, raw, unconditional, selfless care is all about. When both partners are able to do this, they become an unstoppable pair. Conditional, selfish care doesn’t provide either of you the opportunity to grow and love one another to the best of your ability.
Here’s how to provide your partner with selfless, unconditional care:
Tender love and care
Caring about someone with all of your heart is free. It is beautiful, and it will open you up to so much more. Be there with and for your partner, and know that anything is possible if you work together.
Listen
Learning about your partners needs and what is most important to him can help you better know how to help. Sometimes simple words of encouragement or a hug are all that’s necessary. Regardless of how big or small, learn what your partner needs and do your best to help.
Give
Give your relationship all you’ve got because you want to. Give your partner what she needs and don’t hesitate. The benefits are worth it.
Support
Stand by one another, in the good times and the bad. Being there for each other will help strengthen your relationship and teach you a lot about one another.
Boundaries
Even though it’s important to provide selfless and unconditional love and care, make sure that you are also taking care of yourself. If a compromise is just too big and may be harmful to your wellness, it’s okay to set a boundary and say no.
When this happens, sit down with your partner and discuss a possible compromise. What can work for the both of you? How can you both meet each other’s needs and still have your own needs met? Listen, talk, cooperate, agree. Working together will only strengthen your bond and connection…
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xx,
Paula
